I will get to some sample emails, but before I do, let's look at a few, simple guidelines to help you write that irresistible introductory email to the potential future love of your life:1.
Let's be honest: the search for true love eventually leads to sex.
Unless you're an absolute 9 or 10 in virtually every key facet (looks, life experiences, job, living situation, etc) you should avoid wasting your time by emailing the hottest girls with tons of pictures.
She gets hit up by every single guy on the site - literally dozens if not hundreds of emails per day.
but I would argue adamantly that is the most time-efficient tool for any form of dating. I've had at least 40 dates since I moved to my new city and close to half of them have (unsolicited) said by our second drink something along the lines of "wow - this is so different from my other dates." Knowing where they're going (I'm cool and "normal", their other dates are IP guys or accountants with zero social skills/confidence) I will either prompt them further or downplay it and change the subject to something that I'd talk about on a "normal" date.
There are several factors that you need to realize to maximize your efforts.
First of all, when searching for a potential partner, it’s important to keep a few things in mind: 1. In the long run, will it really matter if someone is 5’8 vs. Many women think that making the first move might make them lose the upper hand at the get-go or seem less feminine. Again, we need to go for what we want in life, and it starts here.
Also, many people don’t take point number 2 above to heart, and their search criteria may not catch you.
Some recent weight gain before swimsuit season upsetting you?
I don’t know about you, but I usually don’t give my time as generously to reading emails from people I don’t already know, and I tend to hit the delete button more often. We may share a few things in common, particularly an interest in snapping photos and a degree of intellectual snobbery.
The same is true for emails I get from people on online dating sites. As always, an example speaks volume, so here is one that caught my attention immediately: “Hmmm. Let’s swap photos; or trade barbs; or just have a cup of joe.” There are several reasons this email caught my attention.
First, he was able to convey a lot in less than the minute it took for me to read it.
Second, he showed that he paid attention to my profile by highlighting a few things I had written in my profile (photography, intellect, and coffee).
Or are you sending a lot of messages out into the void, never to be heard from again? Much like in real life, the only reaction that really infuriates is reaction.