But now I’m extremely puzzled and need your advice.
If we really want to know the potential for cyclical relationships, we need to look at how well they transition into cohabiting and marital relationships. While some of this cycling occurred when they were dating, 22 percent of cohabiters indicated that they cycled at least once after already deciding to live together.
Or, to be more precise, 17 months and twenty six days is the average amount of time a person who was in a marriage (or something akin to that) needs before she feels ready to move on.
The depressing theory According to the Daily Mail, the time it takes to get over someone is the same amount of time you spent together.
But take heart, they claim “the time rule is probably nature’s way of making sure we don’t put ourselves in the way of danger from opportunist, unsuitable lovers before we’re emotionally equipped to deal with them.” The Reddit theory A Reddit user asked how long it would take to get over his breakup with his girlfriend, almost every user responding with a personal anecdote cited that it had taken them several years to get over their splits.
Two to three years on the low end, eight to eleven years on the high end, with one user admitting he has never gotten over his ex. The it-all-depends-on-the-breakup theory Relationship expert Dr. Darcy has a whole breakdown that revolves around the classic theory (divide your relationship time in half) but modifies it according to circumstances.
However, she says, one month is a sound period of time to wait before returning to the ultra-vulnerable place that is dating. Playing the self-love game reinforces our independence, which is a critical factor in upholding healthy relationships.