Are you so focused on your path to the perfect guy that you can’t see the imperfect-but-perfect-for-you guy outside your blinders?Gillian*, a recent graduate of Kwantlen Polytechnic University, is familiar with friends who have sky-high expectations and says seeing them pass up good guys is frustrating. that we completely overlook the wonderful people who are right there in front of us,” she says.I consider myself a pretty open person – I don’t really have a type and I’ve given all sorts of guys chances, some that worked out and some that didn’t.But I have a few standards and, once, when I rejected a guy for not meeting them, a friend rolled her eyes and said I had to stop being so picky. Sometimes, people just aren’t attracted to someone or they don’t like something about someone – that’s not a bad thing!I was looking for the final product when I should have been looking for “good material”. We learn from Scripture that marriage is a refining process. His response to arguments was kind and seeking resolution. His response to tough times was faithful and trusting.
When I finally met the man who would be my husband, I knew what to look for. I am sorry.” That is the heart of a man I want to be with. As I navigated the dating scene, I felt like the only way to not be picky was to settle.If I had a dollar for every time someone suggested that maybe I was being too picky, I could have built my own million dollar husband.But as picky as I seemed to be, there was still that unforgettable time where I found myself at a lunch/intervention with my besties asking me what in the world happened to my standards. I stayed in relationships longer than I should have and tried to convince myself that it was right, because they had it all on paper, or we had been together so long, or maybe just because I was getting old.I never imagined that there was such a simple heart check for me as I considered who was deserving of more of my attention.I want you to be confidant in your decisions on who you give and don’t give a chance to.Ask a woman and she'll start counting off on her fingers. And have great teeth, I can't stand guys with bad teeth.