Saturday afternoon, you’ve probably talked about this very topic: should you go after that guy with whom you feel amazing chemistry, or should you choose the stable, loyal, forever-there-for-you boyfriend?
It's the impenetrable desire that oozes from our pores when all we want to do is touch the bare skin of the gorgeous entity taking up space on the other side of the bar. It's a glorious high unparalleled to anything else in the entire universe. It's when just a light touch that exists for a mere second between two fingertips feels akin to explicit sex. We can't rationalize why our bodies feel a specific way. And then our precious pout will meet their precious pout — and something is off. If we're unlucky, we feel almost from just their kiss (at no fault of theirs).The girl or boy who was oh so perfect on paper — wasn't oh so perfect in person.It often makes me wonder: Is our lack of physical attraction, the way we are repelled by a person's taste, our bodies' way of protecting us against someone who — if we were to dare to get to know a little further — could be inherently bad for us?I sense that what you are asking is which one is more important? Having someone you enjoy spending time with, can talk openly with, is accessible and available to you, and seems to share the same feelings are really the basics for starting a romantic relationship. As much as it’s enjoyable to be with someone who “matches the resume” you are looking for, in the long run the lack of passion is likely to become a problem.But, they are also the basics for starting a great friendship. A secure, happy marriage includes a satisfying sex life. It's the unexpected electric shock of sexuality that surges through our bodies when we accidentally brush up against a stranger in a crowded subway car.