Segal explains that God created physical attraction, and while it does play a role in marriage, it should be seen as flexible, with a spouse's inner beauty being a far more important and long-lasting asset."Physical attraction is real, but flexible," Segal writes, noting that it's part of God's design to find each other beautiful.
The most attractive asset in a spouse should be ..."God gave us physical senses and desires for our good.
What if all of these godly principles that should be found in a potential spouse are there, but there’s not that inherent, almost primal, “zing-pow” feeling?
I cannot marry a woman who I am not very, very, physically attracted to or else the intimacy will fade later in life.
We need much more for a strong, healthy marriage, and it’s all too easy to be blinded to a person’s bad character or incompatibility by infatuation.
Here’s what he had to say about it: I agree, but what about the spark?
Therefore, how important and how big a role does the physical play a part in building a loving relationship with someone?
I think that with a complete stranger that I would likely never see again, physical attraction plays a big role in whether or not I would make an effort to get to know him while I had the opportunity.
Is physical attraction so important that despite all the wonderful qualities someone may have, you just can't bring yourself to form a deeper relationship becasue you aren't "attracted" to them in "that way"? If everything about a person just draws you in..you're truly attracted to them. I dunno.."world" just seems to have the grand sweeping view that says "if you're not a super model then you aren't attractive".
I was going to pose this question for the ladies but then realized that it could be for guys as well. I think it is very important to be attracted to your spouse, but what is attraction anyway? I just think it's a little deeper/multi-faceted/personal. Physical attraction is about so much more than just appearance.
’ I’m surprised how many people – both women and men – write to me because they’re worried that they ‘ought’ to date someone they’re not attracted to, and to insist on attraction would be superficial and un Godly.